Shouting or yelling is an activity
when people in their lifetime raise their voice in anger even though some
people have a habit of shouting on a regular basis. Yelling is not good for
maintaining healthy relationships as it is not a constructive way to deal with
a situation yet every person engages in yelling in their lifetime under certain
situations.
Shouting is an
emotional tyranny on the person or persons on whom the person yelling or
shouting tries to gain an upper hand in a particular situation as a means of
gaining control over the concerned person or people. Shouting is a form of intimidation and is equivalent to
bullying a person or a group of persons as a way of forcing them to get the things
done as intended by the yeller.
Reasons for why people do shout– A brief analysis
There are different
reasons why people do shout when they are angry even though most of the reasons
for this activity is not at all good but it is important that the recipient does react correctly which is more about not
being reactive.
Shouting is a
reflection of emotional instability of the shouter
even though his or her yelling is intended to show the strength and dominance of the person who is in anger.
Following are
the five reasons why a person yells when in angry and these include
Ø Poor coping skills or coping mechanism of the
person in anger.
Ø Loss of control over the prevailing situations.
Ø Those who are extremely sensitive use yelling or
shouting as a tool.
Ø People with aggressive tendencies or behavior shout more.
Ø Some persons shout when they feel neglected.
How to deal or react with a person’s anger
There are
better ways to deal with a person’s anger thereby diffusing the confronting
situation and these steps include
Ø Staying calm even if you are feeling angry from
inside is the best option for being a
part of the solution and not the problem by
using a calm tone of voice is
recommended.
Ø Mentally assess the situation when you are
being shouted at works effectively.
Ø Avoid encouraging the person shouting by
performing certain acts or agreeing to work on situations that the person who is shouting wants them to do as such
acts would encourage the person to shout at you again in the future thereby
finding yourself the subject to their shouting deeds more often.
Ø Take a break from the person who is shouting or the
person in anger for you to calm down from the stress generated due to the
concerned person’s anger. The request for a break
may be in the form of a statement instead of question.
Ø Address the situations appropriately
after you feel that your emotions have been calmed down and then return back to
the shouter to talk to resolve the cause of his or her reasons for being angry
forcing him to shout.
These above mentioned steps would help you in
dealing with a person who is shouting or yelling at you when in anger.
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